Im so scared for her! And make no mistake: the BPD will be laughing/orgasming with their Newest Vessel as you plummet to your death. The pendulum. LMAO. They may hoover, but thats another story. The last man shed ever kiss. One of the things theyll do is use verbal trickery to convince you theyre not the same person. It's part of a healthy ego. Thank you for this.. Dear Ellen, Get your ex back with Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup . I was just so proud of myself that i managed to get my live back on track. Walk away. Thanks for the forum and support, its a terrible experience taking off the rose colored glasses and seeing the thing you loved in its flesh. Do I text or call him? He knew what he was doing and he did it again. But on an emotional level it is so hard to accept that the man I so loved is just an empty shell. I just wish it was easier for me to understand her intentions. I am atractive when i look strong. My ex has gone so far as to contact my son, who is a grown man, because I have gone no contact. As far as I know she is still with the new BF who she has now been with for going on one year. Is that the final discard? He would not keep dates and wouldnt show up. Myself When i look back and know all this now, i can say that i am recovering as we speak from the 3th N relationship. He constantly tells me hes happy with that other girl and that he hadnt been happy in a long time but now with her, he is. I wonder often why he holds more value to her than I did? It was not until she text me that her money had come in and she would be sending me the money out ASAP, that she went dormant all of a sudden. I am continuing in counseling and it is going well, and I will continue to receive counseling as long as my counselor believes I need it. Constant lies and manipulation of everyone around her. And is now in the begin fase of that other one both very happy. Thats why to get many of them in the same group is no surprise to professionals, so the term psychopathic mob was coined, and what me and you are in, is known as character assassination. I know that many a guy has fallen for her, so i am not the only one. `. He tried to make me jealous with a over-weight woman who glares at me. My husband thinks Im a nascacist and even tho I have not been diagnosed how are some ways I can tell if I am or not. February 8, 2021 by Zan. After months of drama and him being distant (but at the same time saying he loved me and that he wanted to grow old with me), I broke up with him. And now that I put all the pieces together, I am pretty sure he left his xwife when he started having an affair with that woman. Theyre leaving out half the story. Thank you for stopping by and for sharing your experience. In fact, he hates the very idea. Worked for me when I wasnt even trying. If Im not sure about something, its okay if it doesnt quite work but when I know that I want something I dont want anything to get in the way. I went no contact, although not right away. They need to abandon first. Allow me to break it down for you: []. You do an awesome job Kim. She says she told him as far as I know shes still living there. Thank you. I finish my call then I text himyes?. It can only be described as a LIVING NIGHTMARE. ITS A LOT! It got ugly but I loved him so much, I forgave him everytime. Mine doesnt do many of the overtly mean things that people write about. Well, his reaction was golden. It was sad but in a different way. Every time he comes back he says how sorry he is, how awful and miserable his life is without me, how he has no direction and no reason to live. Yes, that is what happened! Am I so far gone for thinking that men always go for cheap and nasty insults like bitch, stupid, crazy when they argue with women? Go beyond the DSM, for ex, BPD is listed there as a separate disorder, the whole Cluster B is described as Dramatic, but o boy! I did that because i am sure he gets a kick out of it if he sees me broken on the floor. Narcs cant hide their true selves for long. We know his modus operandi as well that hes a narc. My son and I are returning to home town due to many factors. No contact. Yet friends are telling me they have never seen him happier. I feel like I hate her and love her at the same time. They want it all, at all costs, so they slowly & painfully strip it all from us, they take everything we have, even our energy Its only a theory, as no one can predict the future. I dont mean that. The trauma bond. I believe he is absolutely miserable and why he is reaching out to me because he is ready to leave the groupie and doesnt want to go live with his mother. Time flies when you get real busy and a good four week vacation will fill your head with so many positive moments go enjoy life. It took me one year to realize, who I was dealing with. I said goodbye and told him that I hope I had made an Impact in his life in a good way and that he has learned something from this just as I have. Does that mean hes getting ready to hoover me? They the narcissist do not change ! I am finally feeling free but I know when his latest partner has her fill he will come looking for me. Then yesterday, I ran into her coming back from the park and chatted. my narcissist is a parent. As I stated, there was no falling out between us. And there is a scared inmature little person who is scared of live and everything in it. And now when she is in distress what does she expect me to do? The sooner you see that everythjng is about them, their is a pattern you get caught up in with them. It has been a few years now and it has ripped me apart and affects my life. Thank you. Then feels low / hungover and shes back telling me Im her home etc.. how did this happen? Kudos on going No Contact! Even if she loses and never pays me a dime, I need to move forward with the lawsuit if for no other reason than to regain my self respect and get my family jewels back. I am sane enough to get away from him and no longer put up with his narcissistic, messed up personality. We dont use the Narc word but let her know that she is blameless and that it is ALL him. Yes, Kim is right, the label doesnt matter, but the healing is important. I was hysterical and I called the police so they could help me get my belongings. That may be a clue. I cannot and will not respond to this letter or give this man any facetime or interaction with me again though. Making new friends etc. Narcissists seem to change the rules on any given day based on how they interact with peopleonly they dont give you all of the information. I also have a lot of rage and I am so cynical and pessimistic of everything .I think I have ptsd. Mind u I was not shy to express my erratic side in therapy so we can be given the help we needed while being our selves and not some fake person who will gain nothing from therapy. When he gives me the old lets meet for dinner line I tell him yea when I free up. I do not say this lightly, I wish I could say I saw through him much earlier. When I woulnldnt shop at the high dollar stores for him when I shopped at thrift stores I was being stingy. One way to spot a guy who is breadcrumbing? This means that 4-5 people out of 100 you know are these creatures!! In your situation it must be even harder. I was married for 23 years, knew her for 25. But lets say he calls or texts, then what? Basically, she was a runner. She ran away from all her problems and responsibilities. In any case, tiredofliars8 and I sound like we went through a lot of the same kinds of things with a very similar personality type. Email only contact about Only childs needs issues happenings cut man out of all your social media by filtering through current accounts to start fresh with health boundaries work on Your Ideas for Personal Boundaries with Counselor and read as many blogs as you can do not give up for your child and you You know what you know about him get a UPS address its a physical address and inform a local Domestic Violence Shelter for ideas, support, advocacy too. The narcissist knows this and will play on the weakness of their ex. Sadly for me its going to get worse before it gets better. I had left my narc on a not good note. For 5 years of our relationship, he blamed me for not being able to attend until I found out he was not invited. It is 5 chapters but very short. Its another of their classic manipulations. If there is fate, it has taught me to check my own energy and try to be as positive, or at least neutral, as I can in social situations. Theyll text, call, send you emails and flood your DMs with their foolishness. Xx. I dont think the average person getting into a new relationship has the skills to asses whether someone was a narc or not! I would be willing to bet anything that that girl hes talking to, will soon be me. Regardless of who broke up, it was your fault. Here are 10 things a narcissist does when you start to use No Contact with them: 1. So now i am back at day one again. Aside from social media stalking, many ex-couples continue to actually communicatetrying to stay friends. I am trying desperately to break away but it has been not even 24 hours since last contact and Im clinging to the sad hope that hell reach out to me. What a tragedy that wouldve been. Third, the lack of control over what the narcissist can do may cause us to feel insecure about our own actions. We were like best friends. I actually see that my relationship with this person has made me more determined to win by being the best me! I find it really interesting and insightful. I need it. So I fled to clear my head, get all the support legal and otherwise, and am now returning to finslise this. Why are you waiting for him to return? Ive been through it, too. He cannot even look me in the eye and refuses to communicate with me regarding the kids. I am going to train my mind with positive things that shows me my capacitys and the people i am making smile. At this point, my no contact on him was 36 days. 1. Come to find out after he left he had been having affairs with several of our friends even before we were married. How is that possible!? There is someone good out there for you that wont drive you crazy. Thank you. Good job! If I were drowning and you reached your hand out to save me, I would turn my face from you and sink into the abyss of a watery grave while you watched before I ever gave you the satisfaction of helping me. But if a new love interest starts making you feel uncomfortable, becomes condescending, or asks you to change things about yourself, theyre outta there! 23 Narcissist Hoovering Tactics to Watch Out For]. Jill, seems like you have an excellent grasp on how to get rid of a Narc . Narcs will ALWAYS hang themselves when you give them enough rope. Looking back at my relationship with the N, I realized there were red flags from the beginning. Putting down all the positives I was doing. Then he hated me and even hit me twice and choked me once. There is one thing that is different with a narcissist. Where do i stand when i let him still in my heart and in my life? To answer a few questions- i met her in a rough patch for both of us. I cannot describe the way he wrote me, how he behaved, all those words to make me feel so small. I could not understand why/how he would use the detriment of our relationship to secure another. The narcissist starts to panic now that his narcissistic supply is failing.# This actually naturally occurs with people who are narcissistic. Take care. Would his initials be BM by any chance? He had called me a b*tch more than once, would use things I told him in trust to help win the argument or put me down. I am angry with myself because i did not stay strong. I dont want to be back in a relationship with him. But he always had something nasty or condescending to say. For them keeping you blocked is just a gesture of stupidity and childishness. But, then he was back. Im not quite sure but I have an idea. No contact is your control over this, but the Narc will be back. My Mother was Narcissistic also and a couple of years ago disinherited me. I WAS VERY SICK 1/2018 W pneumonia. Then one day, my roommate said,hes such a damn narcissist! And a light went off!!!!! Wishing you all the best. My ex narc left a year ago; we have a teenage daughter. She does not even know me. Just now I received a call from the x about our daughter and school. I feel like I want to give her a taste of her own medicine but at the same time I want her to realize her mistakes and do something about it in the hopes there could be hope for herbut I cant do that because its part my fault for allowing this to happen and not acting sooner . I am simply bringing awareness to the masses that women can be just as cruel, and in SOME cases (not all by any means, but some) can even be harder to get over. The term is character assassination. Women narcs can be especially nasty. I know a few of these women and I have been one of the very few shoulders they have to lean on. Another one triangulated me etc. This all came to a head when I found out she didnt have 2 children she had 4! [Read:6 Things That Explain Narcissistic Abuse in Relationships]. Its like punching you in the arm, and then blaming you because you have a bruise. Two weeks later, the ex began calling & texting for the next three weeks, several times a week. Thats no live. The couple have been together for nearly 15 years and the odd request left the . Cameron was a friend and we were introduced via a mutual friend. Mature people can break up, unblock and still be in a fairly good term with their ex. As someone reminded me yesterday, "Getting no message, is still a message!" Block and delete his phone number. Heres whythe reality is that narcissists suffer from mental health issues. Recovering from this type of relationship takes considerable effort and self-care. I married him because he begged me to marry him two years into our relationship. This thought helps me in my recovery because it gives me all the answers I need. The high you get with them is fantastic. It was one date and done, but I occasionally every blue moon thought of her and how she was doing these days. She also signed a deed of trust two months before we split. I'm afraid I'll forget her. I just didnt like the way he seemed to be larger than life. He didnt understand because he thought we would be friends i only agreed to keep the peace but as I told you, when I thought about it I realized he had no right to have any access to me. And the story will repeat again, maybe shell catch him and get out instead of staying like I did for 4 years. But I did shiver at times. Let me know hey. When would be a good time to come by to get the cable box and belongings? Like were best friends and no time is a good time in my book. In some ways yes and it some ways no. Why do I tell you this? One wonders too how this fresh start would manifest for his little group of facilitating sidekicks maybe 4 or 5 other people who have acted more or less abusively in tandem with the narcissist would the fresh start to be exclusively with the narcissist or with this whole team is his offer the result of some consensus between these people that they all agree they have acted abusively and they are somehow sorry and wish to help repair the damage. Others might disagree with me but if you act all nice with him you are actually showing them to take his abuse and forgive when no forgiveness was asked for nor any repentance shown. And they are right. Now, he will have to pay the cable & internet companies for the cost of the boxes if he dont return them and Im not going to keep them BUT Im not jumping just cause he graces me with his texts and calls and Im not responding just cause he thinks i should. You capture so well what is going on in a narcissists mind. He became sexually abusive. 2. Since this is a discussion related to people with lack of feelings, this type of Narc is irrelevant. Sorry for my bad Englisch by the way but i wanted to say that i understand your situation. We survivors are only a little LESS predictable in how we are slowly destroyed from within. And you will be ready for it and you will survive and you will be the WINNER in the end. This man left our family in shambles I dont even want to look at him let alone joke around with him. I think I triggered something during my visit that was seen as critical of him. They stayed together for 14 years and from what I can gather within that time there were affairs, a suicide attempt and an episode of post natal psychosis. The love letter is so true thanjs for writing it up plainly. FreeAtLast, this is a common tactic of Narcissistsacting like I have been so horrible to him he cant stand to be in a room with me. He wont find better, but I wont be around to find out! This fallout is something I will deal with on a daily basis for the rest of my life and theirs and it breaks my heart. (Ignoring would be better), but you have to hold fast to what you know is right. He owns nothing in the world and has enormous debt. Theyll disappear for a couple of weeks and then pop up out of the blue and start trying to woo the ex. So i tekst hey everything ok? I was on the phone with a cousin and he calls. I am going through a divorce right now because my husband met another girl at his job. Not many people know what Narcissists are. They are acctualy jealours of us because we can escape from the monster in him. The emotionally and financially damage is done and cannot be corrected, as one cannot travel back in time. Now I want to sell it because he left me with no income or support and I was thinking of moving out of state and its no longer mine. I want to tell her the truth about him but wont, it would make me look crazy and she wont believe me. Thats my new motto Life begins after No Contact You can do this. So, if I was not a narcissistic sociopath, then what am I? How to make a Narcissist Obsessed With You? .they disappear after they have disclosed too much. To do this, a Non must reach the absolute edge of sanity; the point where its either you or them where you turn away, or fall off the cliff. My beautiful Dad went before her and she was changing Wills the day he died, even changed his whilst he was alive and got away with it! His last email this week was that he would prefer to speak to me not email, and that tomorrow isnt promised, and if/when Im ready I know how to reach him. My ex was a fullfledged NARC to the tee. Therspist didnt mention anything about narcissism but one Christmas eve my ex narc left mw stranded. Here are three tricks that the abuser will try: 1. For example, perhaps they really arent interacting with a particular ex at a particular time. Cut all ties. I wouldnt dare to diagnose your woman, just an opinion( Ive been/am in what is known as Psychopathic Mob 7 people (how about this?)). He didnt move hug me or clinch. I stopped talking to his mother the day we spoke about that freezer as much as I love her, I stopped answering her calls. My ex really really did try harder with me and I know this for a fact but it was always precipitated by me dumping him. Good luck. Manipulative probably but still Mine knows for sure his behavior isnt normal but he feels people should accept him as he has good qualities like generosity and humor. Nothing getting in the way. I love you so much much more than I could ever say and in this chaotic time of my life Ive found something truly beautiful that changes the way I look at everything (I dont think you realize just how much impact youve already left on me permanently) Dont be scared. We share a dog together and she makes me feel guilty when I dont want her to come around to see the dog because she doesnt take care of it full-time. It also dawned to me how extremely immature she seemed for a 37 year old woman. He was married before, and for what he tells me he left his ex wife because he was bored and she was whiny, she didnt like to do anything, etc He also told me he had an affair with his (then) best friends wife for 3 months. Takes time. Telling him hes a Narc would only gets his back up and make him attack like a snake. Thanks! Try to research on thisNPD is included in BPD, if its a Psychopathic BPD. As I posted above, she did not lash out or ever do harm to herself fro m what I could tell. I still feel so in love with my Narc ex and I dont know how to get rid of that feeling!! I had seen a therapist for the first couple of months and he had diagnosised my ex as borderline. She had more than enough chances to make up for these acts, yet chose to move on to the next guy and start over from scratch. Also, everyone learns in their own time. 3. Be Safe Youve made a decision now stick to it for your childs sake too!!!!!! I AM A BASKET CASE TODAY ITS BEEN 2 YRS N I STILL THINK ABOUT HIM EVERY SINGLE DAY WONDERING WHY I WASNT ENOUGH. No threats though. And not fair to myself. Only a tiny moment of happiness getting his egosuply. Started punishing me . How can you say you love someone and do these things. We do that subconsciously in order to correct the unworthy feelings we had as a child, but only, that never happens with a narcissist. He told me he ussualy forgets that he loves me so much. They whip themselves into a frenzy because they need your supply to maintain their false image. it feels like a heavy drugs that i am an addict of. However, I cant and wont tolerate slanderous accusations, blaming and unnecessary and constant fault finding/criticism. If you like this article, youll also enjoy these: Kristen Milstead is a narcissistic abuse survivor who has become a strong advocate for finding your unique voice and using it to help others find theirs. If you will just act like his friend for the sake of his image, then all will be well in his fake world. Now i have to start all over again:-(. AMONGST 14 OTHER PPL. Ellen, seems to me YOU have the power now, not him! We analyze to death just to understand. Why you put up with it all. My ex narc recently started calling and texting after 9 months of silence. I didnt make a scene, closed the door and broke down in tears! He is very prideful too so I thought I would not hear from him either. Regardless of how it happened, this exit is a destructive question that leaves a black hole in the foundation of our lives. sure. But that I really didnt care, because at the time, I needed the support that he gave me and even though it was fake, it got me thru it. He waited another two months and begged me to call. It's been a while since your breakup and things didn't end on a good note. I have taken myself out of the triangle and am allowing them to self destruct. He doesnt want that getting out. I exhibited classic behaviour traits of the disorder, such as high ergo, irrational thoughts, anger at some issues, believing I was competitive while it relay was insecurity, believing that I was correct which was wrong c, poor listening skills, went from one unfinished project to another, disregard for some of the rules, poorly designed projects, stealing even if I did not want the object, was a hoarder, addictions to food and went from one research group to another when a project needed skills (opportunity to myself). Your appeal is that you loved him as much as he loved himself and that's the only real thing you had in common. Even though youre no longer together, the narcissist wants you to remain broken, and theyll do everything they can to bring you back down to the level of inferiority they believe youre supposed to be at and stay at. Its been a week since our last horrific conversation but I am certain that I will hold onto no contact this time. I kept two years worth of text messages to prove we had a relationship to combat his lies or if he wants to sue me. Because he is busy with himself going out do his thing. In a futile attempt to get closure, I engaged with my ex-narcissist. I think the hardest part for me now is accepting what he is. good bye. I have PTSD from being in a relationship with a narc, which has been clinically diagnosed but reading these articles can sometimes confuse the hell out of me. Im only sharing a part of what happened because I could write pages. In September of last year and six months after disappearing he sent me an e-mail saying he was happy for me, alluding to being disappointed by Paris, saying that I should come see him if I was hesitating on my return to Australia. When I say Im in love with you, I mean I love the story I can tell to my next lover, about my ex-lover, about how beautiful things were, how intense, how storybook, what a couple we were, and how you gradually, inexplicably, painfully, bit by bit, disappeared. The time line fits the puzzle. The first 2 months were hell and I don t think he will fully leave my life.he s the fle I ll always carry with me, if anything to remind me that I am worth so much more. The lies and the illusions never stop. Everyday its a struggle to get back to myself and he has caused so much emotional damage. Nothing could be further from the truth. This is how clever they are. Thank you. Ive seen it. They end up making the shrink question themselves and they are then their victim! She started all this (I obeyed her all the time), but looking back, she was like this my whole life. Believe me, I understand and feel your pain. My tumors are back, and there are more than before. There has been no evidence of slander or of him being in another relationship, however, people whi I do not know are quite freely infirming me if this free information after the fact of confirmation of return. Try meditation if you can. No engagement is the best way to handle this kind of event. I dont spend too much time thinking about the past anymore. he knows on some level I accepted him with all his weirdness even though I called him out every time. Thanks Kim for sharing the hoovering video. I think the little bit of spirituality he does have is the only thing keeping him from going completely over the edge. part of me doesnt want to do that because i want to see him coming in the event he tries something. I can tolerate a lot of negativity before I set my foot in because I am a calm positive person that always try to look at the good into others and try to understand motiveI usually question whats wrong and how can it be fixed especially when it comes to someone that I feel I genuinely and unconditionally love..but now I am asking myself how the hell I stayed with her for so long ignoring red flags that I noticed myself and that my friends noticed too. I am probably right! Get better at playing his game than he is. Hes like yah last few weeks Ive fantasized about it. He withheld his banking information from me, but needed access to mine. Cheers! I dont know enough about borderlines but they do say narcissists usually have something else with their disorder ie sociopath narcissist, sex addict narcissist..maybe he is a borderline narcissist. I am struggling. No, his initals werent IF It took me a long time to heal, too, because for one, I didnt realize at the time that my Ex is a Narcissist, so I didnt know to look for applicable healing resources. We had been to many counselling sessions I alone went. It lasted a week and I kicked him out. So true,although I am still not sure whether mine is a narc or BHD,I am still in love with the fantasy and now reality has hit home.He has pushed me around and even made me get out of the car and walk home,miserable and depressed most of the time ans says the most demeaning cruel thing,he now want us to be just friends and have solo holidays,it goes on and on continual devaluation and yet I am still hooked,like a drug addiction!!! Yesterday i missed him so bad i almost texted him!! So you have the option of reaching out to your ex without it causing damage. Anyway, you read the story. Be genuinely loving. Answer (1 of 3): A2A Thankyou Each person is different.. depends on what your ex has lined up at that moment! Is he really done? Available in ebook, paperback, and hardback! I renewed my revulsion to being the other woman then wrote the narcissist a polite note saying I was getting busy elsewhere, and thought a clean break was the best idea for me. She was indeed charming to me and loved her smile and her extroverted personality at the time(Im a bit introverted). You are such an AMAZING friend. Then, a few short weeks later after asking her in a gentle manner where she has been and when is she going to be sending out my money, she blocks me from Facebook and cuts me out of her life yet againsigh. Then i wrote angree letters and did not hear from him till now. At that time, during dropping off my daughter to him, he grabbed at my breasts claiming he still owned them cuz he paid child support. 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